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Fascinating questions. I appreciate those who question worldview biases, especially in science, where objectivity is highly valuable in assembling useful theories. There is always more to discover, so I don't think of science as the realm of "truth" so much as a way to understand the universe around us so we can operate within it effectively and/or utilize the resources available to us in sustainable ways.

When it comes to these questions of gender and sexual norms, I sense that most people are looking to nature to either confirm or debunk the theories we have about ourselves. Humans seem hard-wired to search for identity, belonging, the desire for acceptance by the herd. There's this need to settle in our own minds (or in society's shared mores) whether or not we are "okay" or "enough", whether we are "normal" or "aberrant". Why are aberrations even considered a problem, if so many today accept the theory of species evolution via mutation?

Regardless of the theories we've been taught in school, it doesn't seem to reach our brains on a primal level. We're wired (it seems) to identify threats and mitigate them. Is your queerness a threat to myself? Is my queerness a threat to others? Does it need "fixing" or not? Is it even "fixable"? I see this applying to many things in society and individual lifestyle choices.

Is my obesity normal? Is it harmful? Can it be fixed?

Is my tribalism (or racism or desire to congregate with others like myself) normal? Harmful? Fixable?

I wonder, though, if we're fundamentally missing what matters when we fixate on a search for these answers. Normal does not naturally equate to non-harmful. Fixable does not equate to must-be-fixed. Different does not mean wrong or dangerous.

It seems the nature of our sentience equips us to override the answers we find, even when objectively definitive answers are found. Yes, of course obesity is harmful to my body and may shorten my lifespan and bring a lot of pain and suffering into my life. But if I choose a lifestyle wherein that is the natural result, is that a terrible lifestyle? What if I'm trading bodily health for mental health? What if I'm constrained by my available resources?

People are choosing lifestyles that are harmful to themselves and others to varying degrees all the time. There are endless tradeoffs in the choices we make as we navigate life. What relationships are we willing to give up to have something we want? What suffering are we willing to endure to live out a principle we hold dear? What lies are we willing to believe to ease our guilt, anger, sadness, or anxiety?

Anyway, didn't mean to go down a rabbit hole, and not even sure how to label the thought-tunnel that I just traversed following the rabbit. But I appreciated the article and your questions, and how it prompts an examination of the biases we hold as individuals, as subcultures, as civilizations. I haven't read enough of your blog to know if this is the kind of interaction you're looking for here, so I'm interested to hear your thoughts.

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